10 Upsides to Being a Gigolo
Complex is an ironic name for such a shallow publication. When your major “News” categories include “Rides” and “Girls” alongside “Sneakers” and “Video Games,” it doesn’t bode well for thoughtful...
View ArticleBuyer’s Remorse and Intoxication at the Strip Club
In the past few years there has been a rash of business men declining to pay their strip club credit card charges. For some unimaginable reason, a guy who racks up a $28,000 titty bar bill at New...
View ArticleConfessions of a Professional Dater
The term “sex worker” usually makes me cringe. By most people’s standards, as an escort, I certainly fall into that occupational category. Living in a country where prostitution is illegal in all but a...
View ArticleSpending On Your Big Spender: Holiday Gifts For Clients
What can you get the man who already has the best gift—your sexual talents—of them all? Here are a few suggestions from the T&S gang. Feel free to add your own in the comments. The Magic City 2012...
View ArticleJohn Franc Wants Us Hooked (2011)
“We were all monsters” the nameless narrator tells us four sentences into Hooked by John Franc. The “we” refers to nine men who live in a city where prostitution is conveniently legal and when the men...
View ArticleSurviving Long Appointments
We all say we want them, but do we really? Longer appointments—all day, overnights, weekends or more—can be great money, but they can also be really taxing on your soul. No matter how much you like...
View ArticleBlood Money
I lean in to Dana and whisper, “I’m scared.” She is affectionately studying the Walgreens display of sex stuff. I pick out a sex sponge with innocuous packaging. Its white printing across a pale blue...
View ArticleYou Probably Think This Post Is About You: A Guide to Unwanted Emails
Having a blog about working in the sex industry often results in all kinds of emails. There are precious nuggets from wonderful like-minded people with whom you otherwise wouldn’t have had the chance...
View ArticleDear Tits & Sass: Overly Attached Client Edition
Dear Tits and Sass, Last February, I met Phil off a sugar dating site. He was extremely effusive in quasi-personal affection towards me during our first meeting, to the point that I realized he was an...
View ArticleThe Annual Sausage Fest
Last night, a friend and a few of the girls from work and I headed to a strip club for the annual sausage fest. One night a year, this club shuts down, kicks the female strippers out, and brings out...
View ArticlePros(e), Issue #1 (2012)
Released in the fall of 2012, Pros(e) is the first anthology of writings from the Red Umbrella Project’s Becoming Writers workshop, a creative non-fiction workshop for people with experience in the sex...
View ArticleDear Tits and Sass: Breaking Up With a Regular Client Edition
Dear Tits and Sass, I need help breaking up with a long time client. He is a very sweet guy and if I were to describe our dates (lots of time out in public: dinners, shows, etc.) it would sound like a...
View ArticleA Hobbyist’s Perspective: We Just Don’t Give A Shit
Dear Tits and Sass Readers, It has recently come to my attention that some of you *cough cough—male hobbyists—cough* think we are talking to you, and while on some days it’s kinda cute to watch you...
View ArticleFrom an Industry to A Hobby: How Review Boards Have Changed Our Work
When I first started working as an escort in this industry, review boards did not exist. The internet was not as widely used as it is now and I worked for agencies that advertised in the phone book or...
View ArticleA Review Primer
The following is a quick guide to review practices and terminology across different fields and even countries, compiled by Tits and Sass editors and contributors including Jemima, Lori Adorable, and...
View ArticleWe Need A Better Review Culture
Since becoming a full-time companion (my euphemism of choice) in the United States about nine months ago, I have noticed two distinct issues that affect our safety and ability to continue to operate....
View ArticleOn Hobbyists and Reviews: Providers Sound Off
Review boards aren’t for us. They’re for sad, sad clients to commiserate with each other and get back some of the power they feel they’ve lost by having to pay for sex in the first place. But I didn’t...
View ArticleHandling The Review Boards
Every portrait that is painted with feeling is a portrait of the artist, not of the sitter. —Oscar Wilde There is no human experience so intimate and personal that people won’t publicly dissect it....
View ArticleThe Big Ripoff: TER, The Texas Murder Aquittal, and the Myth of the...
In early 2010, Dave Elms, founder of the infamous website The Erotic Review (best known as the review site where clients rate prostitutes on a scale of 1-10), was arrested after talking to an...
View ArticleI Pretend I’m Horny, You Pretend You’re A Dog: Performing Consent In The Club
There was a post going around the stripper tumblrsphere about what is probably one of the most common lap dance rejections of all time: “I would love to but I just don’t think I could control myself.”...
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